So I did the chicken thing and I left and I hate to this day that I left him alone in his time of need.
He didn't deserve to be left alone, he had helped me so much building my confidence up after years of abuse from not only the religion I was raised in but the years of life with an abusive husband who tore me down at every opportunity. I should have been there for him in his time of need and I regret so much that I wasn't.
Were yall married?
Women expect (and rightly so) that men be strong, protective, a good provider and avoid things that might damage the family or marriage.
When men appear weak, it puts women off. For the most part, men with deep emotional wounds should try to work that out in a group of other men to not overly burden their wife.
It is not practical to expect a spouse to be the primary source of healing.